The other: what bothers them of us

Following the issue that we started in our previous article on the difficulties facing us as partner in cohabitation, today we see the common points in which they are a real obstacle to follow with us.

Let’s see, those things that are more bothered by them:

-Jealousy: although has studies of specialists drawn from the great truth that jealousy does not make distinction from sex and both men and women can suffer them in equal measure, the truth is that it is more difficult to cope with a scene of jealousy than for a woman for men.

-Encoded language: much of the men, let alone even for an undisputed majority, the mind and the language of women is a world of unexplored and difficult to understand. The reality and studies show that the truth of this is that men have a much simpler than the women’s emotional language and expect to speak them within those parameters: clearly and directly.

-Shopping: join us to make purchases is one of the activities that most hate men, mainly because our effort in looking at every aspect of what we buy is lisa and simply a waste of time for them.

-Women who talk non-stop: this while occurs in some cases, extreme form; We must admit that there is a study carried out by a specialist in non-verbal communication, Allan Pease, which found that women speak in general up to three times more than men. What we must add that most of the women usually impatient over the slow pace in the dialogue of the man and interrupt them. Which further worsens the situation.

-Sex as a weapon: for a woman it is very hard to keep relations if the conditions are not given, as for example after a day of misunderstandings and fights. This is another thing that the man does not understand and thinks that the woman is simply it extort through sex and feeling punished or blackmailed.


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When not is healing

Finishing the subject we are discussing, see the points that we lack to analyze.

Be flexible with us themselves. Set ourselves realistic levels of demand, rather than trying to make things perfect. Be lenient with ourselves when we make mistakes, learning from our mistakes rather than blame us.

Convince us that we need not do anything special to consider us valuable human beings. We are valuable and worthy of love and respect, by the mere fact of exist and do not need to do anything special to deserve it, beyond assume a minimum rules of coexistence and mutual respect.

In other words, we are not what we do – and much less what we have– and commit errors not makes us not automatically bad or unworthy people.

The most important thing is to learn the healing value of a small expression, but as effective and necessary, as a simple no; not only for you but also for the person you love and loves you.


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