Here we will discuss what you can do to fix your relationship when your husband / wife or partner says he wants a divorce.
We will give you some ideas that will help repair, restore and fix a relationship.
Most people do not plan to divorce. The good news is that there has to happen to you, regardless of the condition has been your marriage relationship. It is entirely possible to fix your relationship, even if your husband or wife says she wants a divorce.
Step 1 Order your ideas. It is easy to become paralyzed, like a deer in the headlights of a car, when you face the possibility of a divorce or separation. My advice is that you concentrate.
Make a conscious decision before you start acting to save your relationship from a possible divorce. Otherwise, you can get caught up in the situation and just wait for things “fend for themselves”. If you get to this point, you can not control this situation.
Step 2 Find out why your spouse wants a divorce. This step requires some self-honesty and a direct conversation with your spouse. Was there a specific event that caused this decision? (Was there an infidelity on your part?) This will help you find out what changes are needed to put things back in place.
What if you want a divorce? If it is you who are considering divorce, it’s your turn to try to fix the relationship. The two above steps are still useful. However, if you really want to save the relationship, you can begin to act now. For instance:
– If you have been unfaithful, you have cheated on your partner or have had an affair, LEAVE NOW. It depends on you being honest with your spouse (Many people think this is not worth it, if you were ever discovered).
– If you have fallen into a boring routine, then it changes things. Make your spouse feel special and revive the relationship. If you’ve been being negative, unhappy or moody, change your behavior and decide to have a more positive attitude to life and your relationship.
No matter which side of the fence you’re on, just advise you to share your feelings with someone. It can be a brother or sister, a relative or a close friend. These people can be a very valuable resource and an objective voice in all this chaos you are living in this stressful time in your life.
I would also advise that you and your spouse, consider going to a marriage counselor. A third person can help you and your partner to fix the relationship and achieve the necessary changes.