There is nothing more intense and rewarding than being in love, than having a partner who loves us and whom we want. But we must go carefully and not fall into the error of giving absolutely everything for that person … Therefore, we explain to you what dimensions you must protect above all else.
1. Do not give “everything” without receiving “never” anything in return
It’s a mistake we usually fall into. To love someone is to open all our emotions without finding any limits, giving everything for passion and sincere altruism. And that is good, no doubt.
But as long as the other person responds to us and shows us that every effort is worthwhile, that every gesture is reinforced by a sincere love where there is no selfishness.
If we give everything without receiving more than demands or reproaches, there will come a time when we feel frustrated and very empty. This feeling is very destructive and we have to take it very seriously. Love, offer, give … but remember that you also deserve the same.
2. Do not destroy your self-esteem or your values
In a couple it is usual that there are different tastes, hobbies and even values. But as long as there is respect and recognition everything will work well. You can allow your partner, for example, to value spontaneity, fun, partying a lot …
But you also demand that this time share it also with you and that in turn, value that you from time to time ask for more quiet and intimate days at home. There must be a balance.
But if the other person criticizes us because we are not “so fun” or so party-loving, then we will feel bad and start doubting ourselves. Will I be a boring person for real? Will I be a person with whom he can not be happy?
These kinds of questions can do a lot of damage to your self-esteem. Our partners must respect and value us. Is essential. If there is no respect there can be no happiness.
3. Do not invade or destroy your personal space
All of us have our hobbies, our friends, our passions … things that we can not give up. Never leave families and friends aside for your partner.
Do not give up everything you like for your partner, because otherwise you will not have anything left and you will lose your identity. Personal space are those intimate spaces where our personality, our social life and our passions are. Do not overlook it.
4. Do not erase your dreams and your hopes
Sometimes, we maintain affective relationships with toxic partners. People who cut our wings and tell us, day after day, that we are not capable of this or that thing.
That we are not intelligent to do certain activity, that the work that we long to get will not achieve because we do not give size.
Personalities that day after day are cutting our wings and our aspirations making our personality a caricature where there is hardly any energy or energy. Do not let that happen.
5. Do not let them turn you into an unhappy person.
It is the most important. When you wake up every morning ask yourself if you are happy. Ask yourself if the person next to you is the one you want to grow old with, who will accompany your maturity and who will live next to your hand in harmony and tranquility.
If it brings you security, maturity and illusion, do not hesitate, that relationship is worth it and you must fight for it.
Worse if you feel empty and you perceive that that couple does not give you smiles but tears, and that you live your days with great sadness, you must react. You deserve to be happy. It is the vital right of every person.